By “The Bird”
People are not strangers to Conflict. Human beings encounter it daily — with their friends, families, and, more importantly, their professional lives. Conflict in the workplace results in a high level of irritation, anguish, discomfort, despair, and fury. This is a common occurrence in life. Today's firms hire people from a variety of geographical places with varying cultural and intellectual backgrounds and varying points of view. Disagreements are inevitable in a professional atmosphere when people have divergent perspectives on the same issues.
Conflict can arise between two individuals, between entire teams, or between supervisors and the team members they oversee. As tough as overcoming team disagreement may appear in the moment, it is achievable.
Whether two employees are squabbling over the workstation next to the window or one employee wants the heat on while another does not, your initial response to conflict situations is critical. Here are some suggestions for dealing with employees that are incapable of resolving their issues.
These are things I've learned as a result of conquering adversity. With a little effort and self-reflection, you may also develop a sense of ease dealing with the issues that life throws at you!
1. With Conflict, there are two extremes.
The argument rages about how humans become so averse to Conflict. Is there anything hereditary or something we've learned that makes us who we are?
It isn't important if you were born this way or trained. The other extreme is murder or destruction.
You will do everything to win if you reside on this side of the fight. Murder, destruction, and devastation can occur. It is vital to be a soldier in a war zone or a police officer trying to bring calm.
Destruction is the goal, and destroying the opposing side will bring peace. On the other hand, some actively avoid Conflict. They will make peace at all costs. Those on this end of the spectrum will eventually live in denial or commit suicide. No matter where you start, neither extreme is good. (Many couples originate from opposing ends.)
We need to find a healthy medium for dialogue and bargaining. Sometimes matters are so complicated that a mediator is needed.
Recognizing our beginning points is critical to resolving conflicts. The awareness of the various bents toward Conflict has been a valuable lesson in offering to heal.
2. Conflicts occur for a purpose.
Ultimately, regardless of the approach utilized, the aim is peace. To interact in constructive Conflict, we must understand ourselves and the other party. What motivates them?
The problem cannot be resolved until both parties agree on a settlement.
Although there may be numerous brief truces along the way, we must be firm in our pursuit of resolution. There will certainly not be a perfect time to engage in confrontation, which is why you must stop waiting. Begin and prepare for the long haul.
Choose relationships over laws and make an effort to conquer your ego. Conflict must be pressed until all concerns are addressed and resolved, or it will resurface later with a new and typically more lethal twist.
Not every contest has a winner. The resolution does not imply that you have triumphed over someone. It indicates that you struck a compromise or discovered an entirely new solution.
3. The outcomes are astounding IF you persevere.
I recall some of my first disagreements with my wife. We had no conflicts while dating, and I was completely taken aback when I discovered how quickly a simple disagreement escalated into World War III. I was inclined to flee and never return. My thoughts were focused on the notion that I would continue to date for the remainder of my years if this were marriage.
However, we persevered. Since that day, we've had many worse conflicts. However, we are adamant about never surrendering. Our connection has developed into something special, and she has become my biggest admirer and supporter. She is responsible for a huge portion of my achievement. Giving up would not have brought me to where I am now in life.
4. Take a deep breath, brace yourself, and engage in combat.
What is critical to them? Some men and women want respect, while others want to be heard. Still, others are hungry. Before engaging in confrontation, take a seat and conduct a self-examination.
I'm not referring to medical issues until your disagreement has already devolved into violence. (In that event, please relocate to a secure location before continuing to read this blog.) Consider who you are and what is most important to you. Are you more likely to participate in confrontation when you're tired or irritated or when you feel disrespected?
Conflicts are seldom about what you believe they are. There was a season during which I aspired to be superman. I worked a full-time job, volunteered extensively with my church, and assumed that I would take care of all laundry. I reasoned that it would be of tremendous assistance to my wife and make her happy.
Unfortunately, she was unhappy after a short season of this. Indeed, she was rather enraged with me. I was taken aback. How could she be so angry with me? I'm dish-washing, cleaning, and doing laundry. What more could I possibly do?
My mind's only reasoning was that she was envious of my great time management abilities. That has to be the case. I had my life so well organized that I could handle everything independently and did not appear to require her.
5. Find the basis of the problem and then work on comprehension.
Wow, she believes I don't require her. However, I was incorrect. I'd destroyed one of her most beloved gowns. I thought myself to be superman, yet it appears that I sorted poorly on at least one occasion.
She was enraged over the destroyed garment, which I was unaware of until the dispute concluded on day two. We spent the entire first day arguing passionately over bizarre issues. Neither of us was paying attention to the other, and the dispute intensified.
However, after we calmed down enough to comprehend the other person's perspective on the Conflict, I apologized for the destroyed outfit. In my haste, she may see that I can slow down and allow her to care for the house, ensuring that nothing else is damaged.
By the way, this is a critical stage in settling a dispute. We must pause long enough to listen to understand what is truly going on. One factor that might complicate this is that individuals are not always truthful. Wars are fought for various reasons, and most of the time, we are not informed of the true motivations.
Closing Thoughts
Conflict in the workplace results in irritation, anguish, discomfort, despair, and fury. As challenging as overcoming team disagreement may appear at the moment, it is achievable. You may also develop a sense of ease in dealing with issues with effort and self-reflection. Choose relationships over laws and make an effort to conquer your ego. Conflict must be pressed until all concerns are addressed and resolved, or it will resurface later.
Some men and women want respect, while others want to be heard, and others are hungry for attention. Conflicts are seldom about what you believe they are. Find the basis of the problem and then work on comprehension.