When we think about getting to know someone, the last person we probably think about getting to know is ourselves. Our day-to-day lives are busy with work, school, and searching for love; and most of us aren’t taking time to ourselves as often as we should. If we do, it’s likely not with the intention of diving into self-discovery. But it’s not too late to start.
Making time in our routine to practice self-discovery is a great way to challenge our thought patterns, identify our core beliefs, and gain more control over our state of mind. At first, the idea might seem uncomfortable; most of us are so outwardly focused that the idea of bringing our attention inward is a little intimidating, but not to worry. Over time, putting in this work will dramatically change our lives, and it’s not difficult to get started.
How to Get Started:
Grab your journal and pen and find a quiet place to get comfy. You can work through these questions once per week, once per day, or dedicate a weekend to diving in deep. Whatever you choose, make sure to give yourself the space to be honest, and authentic with yourself, free of distraction.
10 Powerful Questions for Self-Discovery:
What are my core values? (Examples: honesty, integrity, connection, trust, loyalty, etc.)
What are the most important things in my life? (Family, my job, friends, hobbies, etc.)
Do my actions align with my values? What are some areas I am acting in opposition to my values?
What areas of my life do I feel like a failure in? Why?
Do I feel like I am deserving of good things? Why/Why not?
Am I good at meeting my mental and physical needs? If not, how can I do better at this?
What do I need to forgive myself for?
Where in my life am I operating from a place of lack vs. a place of abundance?
Am I good at communicating my needs with others?
Where am I holding on to resentment/anger in my life? What steps can I take today to let this go?
Remember, the most powerful thing we can do to begin truly healing is to find acceptance for who we are. If some of these answers come with guilt, shame, or negative emotions, take time to remind yourself that they don’t have to be permanent. Once you accept where you are, you can take action to make fundamental changes in your life.
Once you’ve taken some time to work through a few of these, take a moment to pause and reflect. How did it feel to spend time getting to know yourself? Was there any resistance internally when you tried to be honest about your answers? Were some questions more difficult to answer than others? What did you learn about yourself that you didn’t know before?
Let me know what you noticed in the comments!